Don’t Worry, Be Happy!

Nyhavn in the sun

I love it when I discover that, yet again, I live in the happiest country in the world. This latest conclusion comes from detailed research carried out by Columbia University’s Earth Institute.  On the one hand, I feel proud that we, as a family, have made the decision to move here to Denmark.  As followers of my blog will know, we’re doing all we can to embrace the Danish way of life, in the hope of discovering what the secret is to this nation’s apparent ‘happiness’.

And, even though a lot of the year is spent in darkness, there are many things to be happy about.  For example, there’s the work-life balance; the cheap childcare; good public transport and excellent cycle paths; free universities (you still get grants to study); and a very generous welfare state. Danes may pay for it in high taxes, but on the whole the system is well-liked.

But on the other hand, this happiness lark amuses me.  I mean it’s not like everyone around me is in some smiling utopia. People, just like in any other country, can look thoroughly miserable. Take us ex-pats.  We like to moan about the inadequate supermarket shopping; the poor customer service; our irritation that most shops and businesses shut at five on the dot (or at three on Saturdays); how expensive everything is; and that some Danes can seem standoffish, even unfriendly.

Dig below the surface, though, and you begin to understand why Denmark always does well in these happiness reports.  Danes just seem more content with life. They may have a high divorce rate, but they really value time with their families.  They appear to keep their emotions in check (too much so, some might argue). And above all, they don’t appear to get stressed with the trials of daily life.

Take rush hour traffic – in a car or on a bike. I haven’t yet seen one incident of road rage.  Danes don’t seem to react in the same way some other nationalities do. They mostly stick to the rules, but don’t lose their self-control if somebody else doesn’t. I saw two cyclists collide the other day, but rather then berate each other, they just shook hands, laughed, and rode on.

So while I’m here in Denmark, I intend to do all I can to discover the secret to this happiness. I’ll let you know when I do!

  1. Dear Alex. I really enjoy reading your observations about life here in Denmark. I will tell you what strikes me the most after having lived some 35 years in the States. I still cannot believe how young the children are here when allowed to walk to school or bike around the neighbourhood alone. I keep wondering why I let my children grow up where I had to chauffeur them everywhere and constantly worried about where they were. I do hope that you, Nick and Charlie find some Danish happiness here. Love Inga

    Sent from my iPad Inga

  2. Love your blog and love the way you write. It’s really right on! I feel like you will enjoy your time in Denmark! No worries and be happy 😉 glad to have met you!

  3. Good post. I think a bit less shopping time might be good for everyone. I love that crashing bikes is such a lark there, I might try it here tomorrow and see if I can raise a few smiles….

  4. Fantastic Alex, you have done so much in such a short time,
    We followed a link to the French cooking school at Kerrouet which we had not seen before
    Good luck
    Annabel and David

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s